15 Years of Love and Human Connections – My Reflections on Valentine’s Day

Fifteen years ago, while still at university, I published my first book on love and human relationships. At the time, I was deeply curious about how two strangers could form a connection so strong that it reshaped their lives. What made some relationships thrive while others faded?

One of the key ideas in my book was the concept of the Love Map. This idea suggests that the person we fall in love with isn’t random—they fit into a unique map we carry within us, shaped by our experiences and interactions since childhood. When someone aligns with that map, love happens almost naturally. Beyond attraction, the book also explored ways to build and sustain strong relationships. Simple but powerful techniques, like *mirroring*—where we reflect back the emotions and expressions of our partner—can create deeper understanding. The environment in which conversations take place also plays a huge role. The right setting can turn an ordinary talk into a meaningful exchange that strengthens bonds.

Fifteen years later, I still believe love is one of the most powerful forces shaping our lives. On this Valentine’s Day, I celebrate love in all its forms—romantic, familial, and friendships that stand the test of time. May we all continue to build connections that bring joy, growth, and meaning.

Happy Valentine’s
Day! #RushNotes #TuanRushdi #LoveWillFindaWay #FirstBook #ILoveYou

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